← How To Use
Pearl is designed to be let go of: the insertable arm is held by the vaginal walls, the external arm braces against the pubic bone and rests on the clitoris, and the two work against each other so it stays seated with no hand on it. It is useful two ways: a partner can run it from a phone in another city while you lie still, and you can do pelvic floor work with something to contract around. Most of what goes wrong comes from starting without deciding which evening you are having.
Charge it fully. A half-charged motor in an internal device reads as vaguer than a full one, a common reason first sessions underwhelm.
Wash it before first use. Warm water, a mild unscented soap, particular attention to the groove where the two arms meet, then air dry.
Water-based lubricant only, because silicone lubricant degrades a silicone surface. For anything insertable you want more than feels necessary: coat the full length of the arm and the entrance too.
Then give yourself ten unhurried minutes to get turned on. Arousal lengthens the vaginal canal and makes the front wall more responsive to pressure. Empty your bladder too, especially for a pelvic floor session, because contracting against a full bladder makes the muscles harder to isolate.
The goals pull in opposite directions. A pleasure session works when you stop monitoring yourself. A pelvic floor session works when you are counting, timing and noticing which muscles are doing the work. Try both at once and you get a weak version of each.
The pleasure session. Insert, seat the external arm on the clitoris, pick a low setting and stop managing it. Not holding anything leaves both hands free. Let the internal arm rest against the front wall roughly five centimetres in, where the tissue feels slightly ridged and firmer than the walls around it.
The pelvic floor session. Learn the contraction with nothing inserted first. Mayo Clinic's guidance: identify the muscles by tightening as though you were stopping yourself passing wind, or by squeezing upward and inward inside the vagina, lying down with an empty bladder. Abdomen, thighs and buttocks stay still. If your stomach hardens or your knees squeeze together, ease off and use less force.
Do not use stopping urine mid-stream as your practice method. It is a reasonable one-off trick for locating the muscles, not how the exercise should be done.
The protocol: three seconds of contraction, three seconds of full release, ten to fifteen repetitions, three sets across the day. Breathe normally, since holding your breath is the most common way people push down instead of lifting up. A Cochrane review of pelvic floor muscle training found consistent training produced meaningful improvement in continence compared with none. Results arrive over weeks.
Once the contraction is reliable, Pearl gives you something to work against and something to feel. Insert as normal, set a low steady vibration: you should feel the arm gripped as you contract and released as you let go.
Release is half the exercise and the half everyone skips. Spend as long letting go as holding, and let the muscles go completely slack between repetitions rather than hovering at half tension. A floor that can contract but cannot fully release is not a strong floor. Fifteen to twenty minutes is a full session.
One. Warm up without the device for around ten minutes.
Two. Coat the whole insertable arm in lubricant, and the vaginal opening too.
Three. Lie on your back, knees bent, feet flat. This opens the entrance more than sitting or standing.
Four. Guide the arm in slowly, aiming shallowly toward the small of your back rather than straight up. The canal angles backward, and fighting that angle is why insertion feels awkward.
Five. Once it is most of the way in, let the arm rotate so the tip curves toward the front wall behind your pubic bone. Stop where the pressure feels most obvious, four to six centimetres in.
Six. Settle the external arm on the clitoris rather than above it on the pubic mound. Bring your knees closer together, take your hands away and check it holds.
Seven. Start on the internal motor alone at its lowest, add the external after a minute, then climb. Most people settle on a high external setting with a low internal one.
This is the use Pearl was built for. Because it stays in without a hand on it, the person wearing it can lie still, talk, or do nothing at all while someone hundreds of kilometres away runs the controls. That is genuinely different from operating a device yourself, and the difference is anticipation.
Both people install the app and one sends the other a link. Your phone holds the Bluetooth connection to Pearl in the room, and the internet carries your partner's instructions to it.
Have the conversation before the handover, not during it. Agree the highest intensity either of you will go to, a word that means stop now, and whether voice or video is part of it. The person holding the controls cannot read a face, so the stop word is not a formality, it is the only channel carrying that information.
Three things make the handover better. Start low and stay low longer than feels interesting, because the appeal is the not knowing rather than the intensity. Use pattern modes, which are more compelling when someone else is choosing them. And leave gaps: a minute of nothing followed by a change lands harder than a continuous climb. Our guide to long-distance intimacy covers keeping a connection going between sessions.
Pearl runs perfectly well with no phone involved: the buttons cycle intensity and patterns for both motors.
Steady modes give continuous vibration; patterned modes introduce rhythm, pulses and build sequences. For pelvic floor work use a low steady mode, since a pattern pulls attention away from the count.
The app adds custom patterns, sound reactive modes and control handed to a partner. On Android it asks for location permission, which is not tracking but how Android gates Bluetooth scanning. More in our vibration modes guide.
Setting it up, and what each tile on the Play screen does, is covered in our guide to the Velvet Vibes app.
Pearl works best where nothing is being crushed. Side-lying with your partner behind you leaves the external arm undisturbed and the controls within reach. Sitting on a partner's lap facing them works for the same reason. Lying on your front with a pillow under your hips presses the external arm hard against the clitoris, which some people love and others find far too much, so try it low first.
Handing the buttons to a partner in the room is a smaller version of the long-distance handover. Agree a ceiling and a stop word. More in using toys as a couple.
For the app side of that, creating a room, inviting someone and passing control back and forth, see Love Bridge and long-distance sessions.
Because Pearl is worn hands-free, a wrist control suits it particularly well. See controlling your massager with an Apple Watch.
The awkward part of Pearl is the join where the two arms meet, which holds moisture and lubricant. Wash it immediately after use in warm water with a mild unscented soap, running a finger or a soft brush through that groove. Rinse thoroughly: soap residue is the usual cause of irritation people blame on the device.
Pat dry with a lint-free cloth, then leave it in open air until completely dry. Silicone feels dry long before the crevices are, and in a humid Indian summer that gap is wider.
Store it dry, cool and dark in its own pouch, away from other silicone. In a shared home a fabric pouch inside a closed box beats a drawer anyone opens. More in cleaning and storing.
It keeps sliding out. Usually not in far enough, or the external arm riding high on the pubic mound. Reinsert with more lubricant, seat the external arm lower, bring your knees closer together.
The internal vibration feels vague. Internal tissue has fewer nerve endings than the clitoris, so a milder sensation is normal. Move the arm a centimetre or two and angle it toward the front wall.
The external arm does not reach. The distance from the vaginal opening to the clitoris varies a great deal. Insert slightly less far, or tilt your hips with a pillow.
It will not charge. Wipe the magnetic contacts on both sides, then lay the device flat so cable weight is not pulling the magnet off centre.
It will not turn on. Check the travel lock first.
It will not pair. Power the device off for five seconds, force-close the app, and toggle Bluetooth.
It sounds louder than it did. Usually a low battery. Pearl carries a 180-day warranty, and support would rather replace a unit.
Will it actually stay in on its own? Yes, that is what the shape is for. If it drifts, it is either not in far enough or the external arm is sitting too high.
How do I find my pelvic floor muscles? Mayo Clinic describes them as the muscles you would use to stop yourself passing wind, or to squeeze upward and inward inside the vagina. Practise lying down with an empty bladder. Stopping urine mid-stream works once to locate them, and is not how the exercise should be done.
How long is a pelvic floor session? Fifteen to twenty minutes. Three seconds on, three off, ten to fifteen repetitions, three sets across the day, per Mayo Clinic. Results build over weeks.
Sex is painful for me. Should I be strengthening? A pelvic floor physiotherapist is the right first stop. Pain and urgency often come from muscles already holding too much tension, and the useful work there is release rather than strengthening.
Can I use it in the bath? Yes, fully waterproof. Water thins water-based lubricant fast, so keep some on the edge of the bath.